If dil doesn’t want to have a relationship with mil out of fear of the unknown or apathy, that’s just being cowardly, a bit immature, and cruel.You can still respect each other for the son’s sake. He chose her, and dil loves him (hopefully). A good mil will not interfere or try to turn a son away from his spouse. Give mil a chance to love you and get to know you, especially if she doesn’t interfere or offer unsolicited advice. The cleaving doesn’t give the wife the go ahead to demand you cut off any family from the new union just because she might only want her family around (because she’s more comfortable with them than the new mil/fam?). Parents don’t HAVE to accept a bad choice of spouse, but they – especially the mother – should RESPECT your wife’s position by your side, if she is actually by your side. The respect must be mutual, not one-sided. It simply means that you should still be respectful to your parents even after you’ve taken a wife. This doesn’t mean he puts his wife second in any way whatsoever. Up Next: 5 Things To Consider When He Lives With His MotherĮditor’s Note: This article was originally published on October 9, 2013, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.įiled Under: Home, Marriage About Stephan LabossiereĪnd then there is the scripture that ‘a man shall honor his father and mother’.
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Communication, respect, and striking a good balance can truly help keep the situation of the “leave and cleave” from turning into something very ugly.ĭo you agree with the concept of leave and cleave, BMWK? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below and let’s have a mature discussion about the need for a wife to come before a man’s mother. The problem occurs when she feels it is getting out of hand. In a good relationship, most women will not take issue with this. I think most of us realize there may be moments when a man tending to his mother is necessary. This is a separate issue to discuss which is less about the principle of a wife being first and more about who a man chose to marry as well as the deeper issues that exist in that marriage.įind out more about the importance of leaving and cleaving by watching this video from Kiaros Couples:
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Chances are, there is a deeper unaddressed issue and the man is certainly not dealing with a happy woman.Īlso, I do acknowledge that, sometimes, it is the wife who is acting out and being unreasonable. Of course, some men will say they do plenty for their wives and their house is still miserable. When she is receiving the love and respect she needs, her innate ability to nurture and pour into her family becomes a lot easier. I am one who believes that a happy woman = a happy man = a happy household.
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This can trickle down to the kids and obviously affect the ability for the husband and wife to interact in a positive and loving manner. If a man constantly places his mother over his wife, it can create a lot of negativity in their relationship. No, to be honest, there is no scripture that specifically states this order, but one can easily come to this conclusion when examining various texts in the Bible.Įither way, even if we didn’t take a biblical approach, it still makes a lot of sense. It Throws the Whole Order of Things Offįrom a biblical standpoint, many will say that the order is clear God, spouse, kids, and so on.